Between work, raising a family, after-school practices and everything else, lets face it, their isn’t a lot of time leftover for mom. I often feel like I am racing against time and their aren’t enough hours left in the day. Have you ever felt the mom guilt for taking “you” time on the evenings or weekends to go get that massage? How about go to the gym on a semi regular basis? Heck, even locking the door while using the restroom?! I have…and it sucks.
You’re busy! Unless you’re fortunate enough to have a personal chef, you probably still need to prepare meals every day like the rest of us. In my mind, there is nothing worse than working all day and then spending hours on a meal in the evening! No thanks.
Like so many of you, I am constantly invited by friends and acquaintances, old and new, to explore their new business ventures, these Momtrepreneurs. They are involved with everything from body wraps, vitamins, eye creams, books, nail sticker things, clothes, lipstick and all the fun things a fellow woman could want. These are highly educated folks, I know paid a pretty penny for those diplomas hanging on the wall. Some have full-time work outside the home while many are SAHMs’. Recently a strongly worded post circulating the internet was harping on these women saying they didn’t want any more fake friend requests and how annoying the continual bombardment of sales pitches had become. This is my response to that post as I respectfully disagree. Instead, I admire each of these women and here’s why!
They are stepping out of their comfort zone.
It is important as women to step out of the daily routine. We can grow our sense of community by branching out and making new friends. Perhaps along the way, they learn a new skill and experience personal growth. Regardless of the product, they are breaking through the daily monotony and opening up to new possibilities.
They are daring to believe they could have more and be more.
The very fact that you are reading this blog post is a reflection of my belief in something more. So what if thousands of other women are doing it? Often these products are really high quality and that is why they sell! Rather it be a solo venture or multi-level marketing, it is still commerce; the activity of buying and selling.
They are working to provide for the household in a way that works for them.
Maybe it won’t bring in a ton of money but every little bit helps right? Women need flexibility and the reality is that the daily grind working outside the home doesn’t fit for every family. Many employers don’t offer flexible work arrangements or work from home options. Not to mention, the cost of childcare in the US is out of control and many can not afford to have multiple children in care. Women are forced to evaluate the break even point and ask at what sacrifice?
Some of them are doing really well.
Like anything in life, you usually get out of something that which you put in it. Some of these women have become so laser focused on success that failure was never an option. I know several women that have walked away from other careers and several that are doing well while still involved in another career field. Success can look different to different people and who are we to judge?
I get these “sales pitches” too. When I receive that text or see that Facebook message I think,”Good for them! I’m glad they are branching out!” I may buy what they’re selling, I may not. The point is we should build each other up, support other women in any way we can. We should support their #momtrepreneur.
Each year my corporate career has presented new challenges and this year I surpassed a decade milestone with the company. I am also a mother to three beautiful girls, the oldest which will be eight this year! (Where has the time gone?) Balancing a career outside the home has only increased in difficulty with each promotion and addition to our family. I often hear from others questions like, “How do you do it?” or “Do you feel like you are missing out?” I usually laugh it off and shrug my shoulders in agreement. The truth is some days I don’t know how I do it and some days I do have to miss out. Yet as I reflect on the past several years as a working woman, I have found several ways being a working mom has made me a better parent at home.
I started making every moment count
We all have the same number of hours in a day. When you share them with a career you learn to make the most of every moment together. For us, it is making the occasional Mickey Mouse pancakes together in the mornings, fun conversations and playlists on the way to school and keeping our evening routine of books and songs. It becomes all about the little moments together and making every moment count in the daily routines.
I applied management skills at home
It is not surprising that the same communication and management skills I work at perfecting during the day have helped me mold young hearts and minds at home as well. We are a team; we work together as a team. The two most important skill sets are being a good listener and communicating regularly.
It has forced me to master organization and planning
In my career, I am constantly looking for ways to streamline through organization and planning. It is not uncommon for us to schedule events month and often quarters ahead in the workplace. At home, we strive to apply the same principles. We utilize calendars for everything from meal planning, vacations, doctors’ appointments and everything in between. Becoming organized has allowed me to focus on being present at the tasks at hand and give my attention where it is needed most.
It sets the tone for ambition and work ethic
As a mother with a career, I am modeling a strong work ethic for my girls. I hope that I am sending the message daily that they can have, do and be anything with ambition, hard work, and dedication.
It allows me to provide for their future
I feel blessed that we are able to provide opportunities for them now that we might not be able to otherwise without my contribution to the household. It is also reassuring to know with two incomes, we are able to help save for their future education costs or needs.
Being a mother can be a rewarding and yet thankless full-time job. Balancing motherhood with a career inside or outside of the home takes perseverance and fortitude. Ultimately the best way to be a better mom is to continually evaluate the needs of your family and always make decisions, career or otherwise, that have their best interest in mind.
It has been a fun ride with you Mr. Refined White Sugar but it’s time we call it quits.